by Chris Adams
A lot has been written on the subject of the gender pay gap. It is a lie that keeps being told and if you ever try to argue the point out loud you will hear a variety of people trying to call you all sorts of names in order to shame you into keeping quite. The gap can be explained away as choices individuals but for those that would rather believe the lie, they won't hear it. They will throw you studies that they didn't read and once you do it will become instantly apparent that yes there is a pay gap because men and woman on average work different hours even in the same fields. Is it fair? Maybe and maybe not but you can't force someone to stay twelve hours a day and work weekends if they'd rather have a life. Nor should they be forced to do so. That phrase on average is key because someone will throw out, "I know this one person" but anecdotal evidence is not evidence. Here is my own anecdotal evidence, the woman at my work all make more money than I do because they are more experienced and know how to ask for raises better than I do. If anything the pa gap is going the other way were I work. I've been in arguments with people on this issue because I can't for the life of me understand why anyone would want this to be true if it isn't? I think people need it to be true in order to explain their station in life because if they really thought about it and came to the conclusion that all of their successes and failures are no ones fault but their own. That is a difficult realization. It took me a long time to realize that but now that I have, I work in the field I never thought I would and I even got a raise because I stayed twelve hours at work and bust my ass to get where I needed to be. The reality of most of the way life works is that, sure there are some people that may not like you for a variety of reasons. Who cares? If you work harder than anyone else then you become undeniable in your field and it will get results. There have always been great female leaders that have been respected around the world. Even when we were sexists, they did it not by blaming men for their behavior but by proving themselves in the face of incredible odds. They transcended their limitations because they didn't see themselves as victims and became respected for it. The hard truth is that 99.9% of people on this planet don't love you or hate you, they don't even know you exist. That is freeing. That means you have the power to make the world anything you want if you are willing to do the intense work it takes to make something out of yourself. No one will be able to stop you because you know what you are meant to do. You can't do that by complaining, outwork your competition.